Paloma Faith is “softening” to the idea of marriage but would only wed her financial equal.
Paloma Faith is “softening” to the idea of marriage.
The ‘Only Love Can Hurt Like This’ hitmaker – who has two daughters, aged eight and three, with former partner Leyman Lahcine – has always been opposed to the institution but admitted her current unnamed partner has led to her promising to keep an “open mind” about the possibility of tying the knot.
Speaking to ‘Newlyweds’ podcast hosts Jamie Laing and Sophie Habboo, she said: “Do you know what this is a strange thing. I wasn’t married to my to my kid’s dad, yeah, and I’ve always been someone that’s very anti marriage. Because the history of it is that it’s about ownership of women.
“And I’m like, the child of the feminist, and I’ve my mum’s just brought me up to be like, no way are you going to do that?
“Weirdly, I don’t know what’s changed in me, but this guy [current date] gives me a bit like, well, I remember when I met, I was like, ‘I never get married, so don’t ever ask me.’
“And then, over time, now I’m like, yeah, I don’t know. I’ll keep an open mind. I can just feel myself softening.”
However, the 43-year-old star insisted she would only marry her financial equal and would want to ensure her assets were carefully protected.
She said: “I also think that I wouldn’t really want to get married to somebody unless I could genuinely think it was properly forever and it was equal and balanced, and I didn’t have that in my relationship, I felt I had too much to lose to him if it didn’t work out.
“Just like, financially, I would have given up, and my kids inheritance….
“And I think that if I ever did do it, I would have a prenup and all of that stuff.
“But I think I wouldn’t be able to do it if I didn’t feel that a person was equal financially or better off than me, because I know I don’t want anything off anyone. No, I genuinely don’t, but I just don’t want to feel that something might come for me, for especially from the perspective that I’ve done so much to get it, like I don’t come from anything. I’m not gonna do all this work just to, like, lose it.”
When she was ready to look for love again, Paloma turned to dating apps but got few matches as she was very specific in her criteria for a potential partner, and was also concerned about having to “bank roll someone’s life”.
She said: “I did it a few times, but I didn’t go on loads of dates. I barely got any matches because I was so kind of specific, like, he’s got to do this now. I don’t want to fall into the same traps.
“And also, I was really worried that I’d end up bank rolling someone’s life. Bit concerned about the professions. Then it said, barman. I just jumped across because, no offense, but I did 14 years of bar work, and I know what the salary is.”
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Paloma Faith ‘softening’ to possibility of marriage
