Candace Cameron Bure has endured “really low lows” during her marriage to Valeri Bure.
Candace Cameron Bure has endured “really low lows” during her marriage.
The 49-year-old actress has reflected on the “rollercoaster” of her relationship with Valeri Bure – with whom she has Natasha, 27, Lev, 25, and 23-year-old Maksim – and times she has felt “stuck” in their partnership but has accepted the bad moments as “just life”.
Speaking on her Candace Cameron Bure Podcast, she said: “[There have been] lots of highs and there’s been some really low lows.
“And I know that during some of those low times, I wouldn’t even say it’s low.
“You’re just kind of, like, sitting in the shallow of the valley. Where you’re like, ‘This isn’t the best, but that’s just life.’ We’ll just kind of go through it.
“You just feel stuck, and yet, for us, we didn’t have either the confidence or just the straight-up courage to be honest enough with each other to say the really hard things because I know they’re gonna hurt your feelings and I know you’re gonna hurt my feelings by hearing it, by saying it.
“Those have been stuck moments in my life, and then sometimes you got to reach the pit to get pulled out of it and kind of hit the bottom of that. I know that we can feel stuck. We want to get unstuck.”
The Fuller House star has experienced a “nagging feeling” where she knew something was “just not right, but you can’t quite put your finger on it,” and found it hard to instigate change.
She said: “You know that you want your life to change, but you don’t know where to start.
“You don’t even know what to look for and what move to start making, and then when you do have a family, you have a husband, have kids, it’s like, again, I just know that something isn’t right in my life, and I want to move it over on a different track, but how do I start, and how do I get my family on that track?”
The Home Sweet Christmas star previously credited her son Lev with saving her marriage during a particularly low point in her marriage.
Speaking on her podcast, she said: “Val and I went through a really, really rough season in our marriage in 2020, and that’s when the pandemic hit.
“It was going south quickly, and we were like, ‘I don’t know, don’t think … we’re gonna make it through.’
“At one point, Lev, Maks and Natasha, but Lev was the one leading the charge. He came up to us and said, ‘We’d like to talk to you guys.’ Val and I sat down and Lev preached, like, a 45-minute sermon on marriage to us. Just had his Bible open on the couch and just talked about it.
“And I’ll never forget, ‘cause he said, ‘You know, I know I haven’t been married. I’m just a young kid. And so it’s probably hard to take marriage advice from someone this young [who] never experienced it before. But I don’t need to be married to know what the word of God says.’”
The Full House actress recalled how Lev had “such a calm voice that had so much wisdom behind it” when he sat his parents down, and the conversation made them appreciate what they had together.
She continued: “He looked us straight in the eye and individually asked me and then asked Val, ‘Have you done everything you can? Is there one step of grace, is there just some bit of more grace you can give? Is there one more act of kindness in you that you could give to try to reconcile?’
“When we walked away from that and Val and I were like, ‘Huh, we raised some pretty good kids.’”
Candace Cameron Bure had ‘really low lows’ in marriage
