Cara Delevingne never liked the idea of getting married but she has been engaged in the past.
Cara Delevingne was secretly engaged – even though she doesn’t believe in marriage.
The 33-year-old star – who is in a relationship with musician Minke and previously dated the likes of St. Vincent, Amber Heard, and Ashley Benson – revealed she has “been proposed to” and also popped the question to someone because she liked the security it brought, but she’s never been interested in the idea of a formal exchange of vows because she’s worried about losing her “freedom”.
Speaking on the Louis Theroux Podcast, she said when asked if she was engaged: “No. I have been engaged. Doesn’t matter [who to] now. They’re long gone. Sucks for them. Yeah … I’ve been proposed to. I’ve also proposed to someone.
“I’m not telling you [who I proposed to]. Have to have some mysteries here.
“It was something about actual marriage that I really didn’t believe in, but it was engagement that made me feel like they might not leave me.
“So it was like, ‘Oh, if we’re engaged, that means there’s an extra line they have to go to leave.’
“But I actually never wanted to get married. Like, that really scared me because I really believe in freedom and not in the sense of doing whatever I want, but I think whenever I feel tied down to something, it makes me go, ‘Wait a minute. Wait a minute, that feels funny.’
“And also, in the sense that marriage in terms of patriarchal society and the heteronormative version of that and for land and for religion and all of that is not something I’m down with.
“But I do believe in a spiritual union and a commitment, and I think there is a beauty in that. But it’s taken me a minute to really understand that and also to have the same rights in terms of being in hospital and kids and adoption and all of it.”
Cara confirmed she can see herself marrying one day and she “really badly” wants to have children.
Asked if she can see herself making a lifelong commitment or getting married, she said: “Yeah, I do. I really do. I want a family really badly.
“I definitely don’t want to have kids to fix anything, but I think it will really heal parts of myself that have a tough time having sympathy for the kid I was. Because I’ve done a lot of work with that and imagining a little kid going through the things I saw or went through, I couldn’t imagine that.”
The Paper Towns star previously identified as pansexual and admitted it took her some time to figure out she’s a lesbian.
She said:”I think men are attractive. I think if you’re a lesbian, you can still find men attractive. I’ve never been in love with a man, so I think that classifies me as a lesbian.”
Asked if it took a while to figure out, she said: “Yeah. Because it’s hard being gay. I think basic human instinct is to go for an easier path. But you can’t fight against who you are…
“Ithink there was always an element of people poking fun at it, which was fine because I did it too, people close to me. Because also, I guess I didn’t feel very seen for it, but I also know that my own personality is, I would take the piss of myself, brush it under the rug, and not want to talk about it.
“But there’s a part deep down that you always want to feel understood a bit more,by straight people in your life who love you, who don’t understand it.”
Cara Delevingne was secretly engaged
