Benny Blanco shares how long he and Selena Gomez dated before going public

Benny Blanco has revealed he and Selena Gomez were together “for a long time” before making their relationship public.

Benny Blanco and Selena Gomez dated in secret “for a long time”.

The couple – who married in September 2025 – went public with their romance in December 2023, but the 38-year-old producer has admitted they had been seeing one another for some time before they let fans know about their relationship, and the Only Murders in the Building actress acknowledged that her fame would spark a lot of scrutiny once they did.

Speaking to Spain’s El Pais newspaper, he said: “We kept our relationship private for a long time, about eight or nine months.

“And she asked me, ‘Are you sure you want to do this? I understand if you want us to just be friends.’

“And then I said, ‘You know what? Screw it.’ We’re lucky because we both have friends and family we’ve known since before all this, and we’re surrounded by a good group of people we love.”

Benny admitted he is still getting to grips with the level of fame he’s experienced because of his marriage to the 33-year-old star.

He said: “I don’t like to expose my life. Famous people are under constant scrutiny: if you say one thing, it’s wrong, and if you say another, it’s also wrong.”

He admitted he would “like to have more privacy,” but he is part of “that transitional generation where social media didn’t exist when I was a child”, so while he largely focuses on sharing content relating to his music career, he will “occasionally post a picture of my wife or some delicious dish I’ve tried.”

Benny and Selena had been friends for years before their relationship turned romantic, and the Eastside hitmaker recently recalled how his mom Sandra Levin had encouraged him to date the singer-and-actress back in 2019.

Speaking on his Friends Keep Secrets podcast, he recalled: “I’m shooting a video with Selena. I’m dating someone else, OK?

“My mom’s on the video shoot, and she says, she’s just sitting there, she’s like, ‘Hon, you should marry Selena.’

“And I was like, ‘What?’ And she was like, ‘You should be dating someone like Selena.'”

Although he and Selena were friendly but not “best friends”, Benny really liked spending time with the Lose You to Love Me hitmaker.

He said: “There was like two times in my life where I left a specific session or late video with her where I was like, ‘Wow, she’s so cool. She’s like really cool.'”

Benny confirmed that Sandra “planted the seed” for him and Selena to get married, after podcast guest, Breaking Bad actor Aaron Paul, 46, wondered if his mom did.

He added: “She was like, ‘She’s got her head on her shoulders.’ She was like, ‘She’s so sweet, she’s this and that.’

“Everyone says you always marry your best friend. That’s how it works. And she’s my f****** best friend.”